Friendship

The other day I had a 2 hour drive to my house from my cottage. It was just me in the car so I had a lot of time to think. I thought about friendship, and how it changes throughout the years.

Friendship starts out by parents scheduling a playdate with their friend’s children. The parents choose the people that they want to surround their children with. Then elementary school comes and the child gets to make their own friends. This continues for the rest of life, of course.

The main thing that I was thinking on my drive was how if you have gone to public school in the same town your entire life, you have always been around the same people, and the same friends. Once high school hits, you are very good friends with these people and have deep connections to some of them. This is one of the reasons that university is such a big adjustment for young adults. All the people that they are comfortable with are usually no longer at the same school. You have to sort of start over and make some new friends. The funny thing is that the friends you make in university are like instant best friends. Everyone in university is looking for friends, they are looking for some people that will help make the transition a little bit easier. All friends are wonderful, but there is something about the university friend that is different. This person truly knows you, because most of the time, they spend more time with you at school than your own family does…this is especially true if you are living on residence.

After I was thinking about all my wonderful friends that I have made so far in my life, I was thinking about what happens after university is over and all of my friends go their separate ways, what will life look like then? Going from seeing my best friends everyday, to not knowing when I am going to see them again just seems plain scary. I know that I will stay in touch with my best friends, but it will never be the same. There will never be another time in my life like university, being surrounded with people I love (and quite frankly, some that are harder to love :P) and having the best and worst days of my life. Even though the future is a little scary and definitely full of unknowns, I am ready to cherish and enjoy the next few years of my life. The last few years that I will always have my friends surrounding me.

And I guess some day in the future, things will come full circle and I will be scheduling playdates for my own kids with my friend’s children.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. Even though I am specifically talking about university friends here, I love all my friends and always look forward to spending time with all the people that I love.

 

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Joshua 1:9

Good afternoon!

This week is one of my favourite weeks of summer so far, because it is the week of Vacation Bible School at my church. This year, I was in charge of planning everything for it and I definitely think that I put a lot of effort into the planning. It is so amazing to see something that I have worked so hard on really come together into a fun filled week for the kids.

The reason that I am talking about Vacation Bible School (VBS) is that I wanted to talk about a specific bible verse. The bible verse today for the kids at VBS is Joshua 1:9.

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9

I think that this verse is so encouraging. It shows that we have nothing to be afraid of. It is also a nice reminder that God is with us all the time. I have recently decided that I needed to get out of whatever slump I was in, and get things right with God. This has been a slow process so far, but I can see myself gaining more confidence and faith as the days go by.

Prayer Request: Please pray that the rest of this week goes well with the kids, that they might learn the love of Jesus.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

 

Hello Again

Hello Friends,

It has been a little while since I have written anything. This is mainly because I have been busy, and also because I am not exactly sure what I am supposed to write. There have been events this summer that have been exciting, but also some events that have been not so great.

I never want to stop writing. However, with no topics to write about, my mind has been a blank slate.

My summer job is a very interesting one. It has definitely challenged me more than I thought. It is also rewarding me more than I thought it would. This summer I have confirmed that I need to be working with children after I am done school. I have also confirmed this summer that I need to become a counselor of some sort. I am no longer questioning if what I am going to school for is not what I am supposed to be doing. I know now that it is a calling for me. A for sure thing.

I am so excited to go back to school and learn more. Not only will I be learning more about the actual subjects that I will be studying, but I will be learning more about myself. I am excited to keep working on myself as a person. I want to be more kind, and more honest with others and with myself.

I never knew that over a year ago when I started blogging that I would enjoy it and find it as therapeutic as I do. I did not know what it would become or turn out like.

“I have commanded you, ‘be strong and courageous! Don’t tremble or be terrified, because the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.'” – Joshua 1:9 … This verse is kind of my verse for the summer. God has led me into events through which I have needed to remember that He is there for me always. It is also the theme verse of the Vacation Bible School that I am using this year at work.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. I hope you all have a great week! 🙂

Selfish vs. Selfless

Today I went to church and I wanted to write my afterthoughts from the service. The talk today was on marriage. Haha, kind of funny that I am writing something that I have learned about marriage seeing as I am a young, single person, however, the point I am going to put out there is not directly linked to marriage.

In every relationship/friendship, you can choose whether or not you are going to be someone that is selfish or selfless. Sometimes it is hard to look beyond ourselves. We have a choice to make every single moment of our lives. We can choose to be selfish, or we can choose to be selfless. I struggle with this concept because the world that I live in is all about doing whatever is best for me, or whatever is convenient for me, or I am told to do whatever makes me happy. It is so much easier for me to think about myself and place myself above others. It is important to remember that doing things for others is healthy and kind. Putting God and others first in life is so hard because it is so counter-culture for me.

When I read the bible, the versus that typically stick out to me the most are the ones about humility. When I think of humility, I think of someone who is selfless. Being selfless doesn’t mean not doing anything that you enjoy, but it is more about putting others first and thinking about other people. Putting other people first can be hard, but is mostly rewarding.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. In the words of country singer Tim McGraw, “always stay humble and kind.” I really love this song.

Burrito

Sometimes kids say the funniest and most random things. As I was babysitting this past week, the little five year old girl that I look after randomly started calling me burrito. I have no idea why she decided that I should be called a burrito, but for the rest of the time that I was at her house she referred to me as burrito. It made me crack up. I love things that kids come up with, and this particular word is something that I don’t want to forget because of how random, cute, and funny it was.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. I know that this is pretty short, however, it is what was on my mind today. As I was writing, I was listening to The Little Mermaid soundtrack… I’m going to see my friends perform the show this weekend and wanted to be familiar with the music. 🙂

 

Morning Thoughts

As I am sitting here in my living room and looking out the window at all the traffic (or lack thereof), a thought came to mind. I am selfish. I think that being selfish is something that comes easily to people. We don’t want to get in other people’s way, we want to be better than others, we want to be ourselves so badly that we sometimes cut people out of our lives. This is a strange concept to me because although everyone is different and have different lifestyles and things that go on throughout their lives, both trials and triumphs, we seem to think that we are the only ones that have ever felt the way that we do. This creates a focus that is even more self-centered.

We think that we are more special than we are. Of course no two situations are ever going to be exactly the same, but there is always someone that understands what you’re going through. Often, even people in your friend group have similar experiences. It can be hard to open up to others, but it results in a support group and that is most of the time a great thing. I guess the point of my post is that you should talk to someone that you love and trust about your feelings. You may discover new things about people, and you will hopefully become less self-absorbed during the process.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. Today was another day that I wrote a post without listening to music. However, I wanted to write before I go bowling with some friends. 🙂 Have a good day, and a good week my friends!

Things I learned in My 1st Year of University

I finished my first year of university a little over a week ago. I cannot believe that I am actually done my first year. It went by quicker than I ever expected it to. Being on summer vacation in April is something that is very new to me and also very exciting.

There are a few things that I have learned throughout my first year. I know what you’re all thinking: WHAT?! YOU ACTUALLY LEARNED SOMETHING AT SCHOOL?!?! Yes, I did learn a few things. I learned that no matter how much pressure you place on yourself to do well in school, you have to have some sort of escape from your classwork. This is especially important if you are living at your school on residence. My escapes have been writing, working with children, and anything to do with music.

The second thing that I learned is that university is totally different than high school. You always hear people saying that university is harder, but you really don’t realize the workload until you are in university. Being a full-time student at my school, you typically take 5 classes a semester. Most classes are 75 minutes long and occur twice a week, however, there are exceptions to this time frame. If you had gone to a public high school like me, than you would not be used to having “free time” during the day. University really helps you to become self-sufficient, and it also helps you develop very good time management skills.

The last thing that I learned in my first year of university besides the actual class content, is about my work ethic, or sometimes the lack thereof. I have learned that even when I feel like I have nothing left in my brain that could possibly turn into anything, I can write a paper. I have learned that extra credit is usually worth the small inconvenience of the time so that your grade can be the best that you can possibly make it. Getting work done early before you start stressing about other things is also a good idea. Friends and family always come before school work. It’s okay to not be the best, but it’s not okay to do anything but your personal best. When you slack off, you pay the price.

I don’t know if this is even interesting to anyone, but I thought I would share some of the many things that I have learned throughout my first year of university. It will be neat to see what the difference between first and second year will be. I intend to keep writing for as long as I still feel like I should be writing. Stick around because some fun posts may come your way soon.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. The music I have been listening to while writing this post has been the Wicked soundtrack. Show tunes are always super fun! 🙂

 

 

Remember the Blessings

This post is meant just as much for me as it is for you who are reading it. This post is not going to be very long, but I thought we could all use a reminder that we have many things in life that are important. We are important, even though we sometimes feel like we don’t matter or make a difference, we do. Remembering the small things in life are what helps us to get through trials and hard times. Always remember that there is someone in this world who loves you more than you will ever realize. Keep the things that you love the most in your mind and cherish them, it helps.

To all my fellow exam writing students: We’ve got this! It is almost summertime and we can get a break from school very soon.  🙂

Sorry that this post is very short, but I must get back to studying for my exams.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. I cannot remember if I have already posted this song with a blog, but it is a good one and worth sharing again if that is the case. 🙂

Paper Season

I wanted to write a post because it has been far too long! This week has felt far too long, yet has gone by very quickly. I guess a time change can be partially blamed for my lack of knowing what time or even what day it is. It is no longer my spring break, which is unfortunate, because not being on break means that it is paper writing time. University is funny like that. You don’t need to talk about actual seasons in the weather with students, you just need to mention the four school seasons. The four school seasons are: Start of semester, midterm season/exam season, break season (my personal favourite), and paper writing season. I am currently in the paper season of life. Exam season is looming ahead soon, and then I get to be on my most favourite season – break season!

Because it is paper writing season, I have not written much here. All of my writing energy has gone into the papers that are due next week. I have one paper due on Monday, one due on Wednesday, and then one due on Friday. I have two other papers due the week after that, but I like to take things a week at a time if I can. Writing papers can be extremely frustrating at times, so it is a good thing to make sure to take breaks and to still remember that it’s important to do fun things.

I am the type of person that gets pretty overwhelmed with my workload easily. Some things that I do to help me to stay sane are to set time limits for myself. I tell myself that I am going to work hard for an hour and then I get to have a break for twenty minutes to half an hour. This helps to keep my brain sharp and focused, as well as giving my body a chance to get up and move around. I tend to try to not work past 8:30-9:00 at night so that I can have a chance to unwind before going to sleep. Sleep is the most important when you are in the most stressful times of life. I tend to wake up around 8:00 and get up at 8:30, ready to do work. I do this on the days that I do not have morning classes. I know, I just said that sleep was important, so why do I choose to wake up that early if I don’t have to? I tend to be the most focused and have my clearest mind in the morning. I can usually get twice as much done from 8:30-9:30 in the morning than I could get done in an hour after supper.

Another way that I stay sane is by listening to music that is calming to me. Music that I can listen to while working, but I can also sing along to it if I feel like singing. It helps me to stay focused. There is one song that I have had on repeat all day while I have been working. I’ll attach the link down below so that you can take a listen. It is called “It is Well” by a group called Bethel Music. For those of you who are thinking of the hymn, this song is not the same.

Anyway, I am going to go and enjoy the rest of my night.

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. Here is the song link; enjoy!

A School Assignment

I just completed an assignment for my sociology class about sociology in our everyday lives. We have to pass in four of these assignments throughout the semester, and this one was extremely interesting to me and so I thought I would share my assignment and my answer to the questions that I am about to hand in to my professor. Enjoy!

 

Have you ever traveled to a low-income nation? Do you think that people from high-income countries should feel guilty when seeing the daily struggles of the world’s poorest people? Why or why not?

Exactly a year ago from today, I was in Honduras on a mission trip with my church. It totally changed my thinking about how people should view the struggles that people in poor countries face daily. I do think that people should feel guilty when they are from high-income countries and they look and see what the poorest people have to go through to live. I think that guilt can turn into motivation to help these people. Something that I found especially striking to me when I was in Honduras was how many children were extremely uneducated. We met children who were sixteen years old that were only in grade seven. One of the boys that helped us on our building project while we were there was fourteen years old and did not have higher than a grade three education.

When people say that the world needs to be educated, yet they just sit back and say that someone else can be the change because I do not want to be the change, it really bothers me. I felt guilty when I was in Honduras. I saw that a lot of the people that live there were spending one third of their weekly income on Coca Cola. They do this because they do not realize that saving money is important and that if they saved money, they could own a motorbike or something that would really help them out. It makes me want to educate people that do live in higher-income countries about the importance of teaching the next generation to be a generation that cares for the people that may not have as much as they do. It also makes me want to educate people that live in higher-income countries to not be afraid to be the change. It may not mean going to another country and physically helping them out. It may just mean that they are no longer oblivious to the happenings that go on in people’s lives. Living in a place like North America, it can feel like we are detached in a way from the people that are living in the poor countries, it is easy to forget about what goes on.

It is impossible to come back from a trip like the one I took to Honduras and not feel guilty for being able to go to school, or owning my own computer, or even having more than one pair of shoes. This guilt needs to be turned into something positive. I am not saying that we should give away everything that we own, but I am saying that we need to be willing to help other people out. Whether or not it is convenient for us does not matter. I strongly believe that education is the basis and foundation of knowledge about not only the world around us, but how we can help those who are less fortunate.

 

Again, I hope that you enjoyed reading my assignment, and hopefully I get a good mark!

C’est la vie,

Kayla ❤

Ps. I have no music for you today as I did not listen to music while writing my assignment! Also, sorry if some of this is a repeat from the blog where I actually talked about my trip to Honduras in more detail than I am providing here!!