This weekend, I have tried to do more homework than I normally would do on a weekend. I felt accomplished yesterday when I realized that I finished something that was due for Monday, and something that was due for Wednesday. These homework items took me two and a half hours. This afternoon, I finished an assignment that is due on Thursday. It seems like I have a pretty good handle on things right?… WRONG! I have to read two chapters of sociology before tomorrow, a chapter of psychology before Thursday, I have to finish Frankenstein for Tuesday, I also have history to read, and last but not least for the readings, I have a book to read for my religious studies class that I have yet to start. Not to mention the papers that I have in every class that are all due sometime in March. I know that March is a little bit away, but it can really sneak up on me if I’m not careful. If I started some of my papers now, it would make for less stressful times later, but who knows when I will find time and energy to commence those papers.
As much as this sound like I am complaining, I really do enjoy school. I am staying positive. The week of choosing happiness that I completed really made a huge difference in how I go about things and how my mind is thinking now. I am challenging myself to another week of choosing happiness. I think that I will probably continue doing so until choosing happiness is a second nature for me. It made me feel better, I smiled more, and I just generally enjoyed life more. I would recommend trying it. As much as some days and times it was not easy and I may have failed a bit, it was very rewarding and fun to have this shift/change in attitude.
C’est la vie,
Sometimes life throws things at you that are not always pleasant. I find that when this happens to me, I need to take a day or two to just think about what is going on. I need to let myself cry, laugh, be angry; basically I need to let myself go through the motions. Ultimately though, the things that life can throw at us really puts things into perspective. The important things in my life are my family and friends, and their well-being. There are always people that have things worse than you. You need to be able to try and find the good in life.
Happiness is a choice. You wake up every morning and make a conscious decision as to whether or not you are going to be happy that day. It is certainly not easy to choose happiness, and I fail at doing so often. I think it is important to realize that even if we are trying and doing our best, it is enough. It takes practice. Waking up and saying this is going to be a good day today, and making sure that you go back on that promise to yourself is extremely important, and it is hard.
Perspective is critical to making sure that you stay healthy. You have to take things in stride. Ultimately the juice that you spilled on your pants yesterday is not going to be the end of the world. I know that’s just a silly example, but bigger things happen too and are also not the end of the world. When you lose someone, when you’re not best friends with the person that you were three years ago, when you fail a class or your GPA is not high enough; life goes on. Life doesn’t stop just because one bad thing happens in your life. You have to learn how to properly deal with life’s craziness. You have to turn back to God and your faith and you need to admit how much you actually need him in your life. You have to choose happiness everyday that you are able to.
A phrase that I use that has helped me to sort of suck things up and move on is: C’est la vie. French for: It’s life. There is a reason that I use it for my salutation. My friend and I have this thing where if we are done ranting to each other, or if there is nothing to say/nothing else to say about our situation we simply put: C’est la vie. The other person then responds with: La vie. (Because in English, when you’re saying it, it sounds like you’re saying: say la vie. That’s the reason behind the response.) It is just something that makes me smile and helps me to realize that life is not always fun, but we can choose how we are going to react to it. This week I’m going to choose happiness. It might be a struggle, but I am willing to put up a fight.
C’est la vie,
Ps. I hope you’re having a good Sunday and weekend. Mine was a full, and interesting one to say the least! 🙂
“There isn’t a person you wouldn’t love if you could read their story.” -Unknown
Every time I see this quote, it constantly puts my life into perspective. Everyone is just trying to live their lives. Everyone goes through different events and obstacles in their lives, and who are you to judge said person. It goes along with the saying of walking a mile in someone’s shoes. People all want to fit in, they all want to be loved, and they all want to feel wanted. It is so unfair for people to judge others. You never know what is going on in someone else’s life. I believe that everyone has a beautiful soul, even if it seems buried underneath a persona.
People do not like to be open with others about their lives. Sometimes it is an issue of pride and ruining a reputation. Oftentimes it’s not even an issue of not wanting to be open. The issue is sometimes that the person has a hard time opening up to others because of a few reasons. One reason is that maybe they have tried talking to others before for different issues but they have not been listened to in a very respectable way. Another reason might be that they just do not have someone to be open with.
Next time someone around you seems upset or just not themselves, just make sure to give them an opportunity to talk. Let them talk to you, and really listen to them. You might just make their day.
C’est la vie,
Ps. It’s been awhile, sorry friends! During Christmas break I wanted to post but my computer was not hooking up to the internet. After the break, things were just a tad crazy as I was moving back to residence and adjusting to my classes again. I hope to be writing more frequently again soon! 🙂